Friday, April 5, 2013

Temptations in Marriage-Guard your heart!

So I have to warn you:If you have yet to see Tyler Perry's new movie "Temptation-Confessions of a Marriage Counselor," you might not want to read this. I'm not giving away too much, but just wanted to warn you anyway.

So hubby & I had the lovely opportunity to have date night this week and we set out to see this movie. I didn't know what to expect because all I saw were "racy" previews about temptation & affairs and wasn't sure how they would portray marriage .Some of Tyler Perry's movies recently have been a little "suspect" to me. I'll just leave it at that lol. So anyhoo to my surprise, the movie was pretty powerful. 

I won't get into details but it amazes me, yet doesn't surprise me that the affair happened so fast. The bible speaks a lot about our tongue, guarding our heart, and reaping what we sow. All of these factors had a role to play in this movie. Especially the tongue and heart. I kept leaning over to my husband, whispering commentary and ad-libbing lol. Mostly because some of the situations were relatable especially being a woman. 

The thing about marriage is, you HAVE to protect it. Guard it. There are always opportunities for destruction (John 10:10). In the movie, the married couple were fine & dandy. Nothing they were dealing with was beyond fixing. Sometimes in life we hear voices. We get thoughts. Whether you believe it not, many of them are not yours. They are from your adversary, the Father of lies (John 8:44).

Sometimes we can be content with our marriage, children, situation and along comes someone who makes one comment. One comment that gets us thinking. I used to do it in our marriage. Someone would either tell me what I should do, what they do, what I shouldn't etc. and it sparked something. I was no longer happy with whatever it was and I had to "fix" it. Looking back, there wasn't anything to fix. Someone said something that planted a thought in my head, which produced an action.

That's what happened here. The woman was painted a picture, a perfect picture; and after enough convincing she was no longer happy. The sad part was it didn't take long for it to happen. Words. That's all they were were words. Words that became thoughts that became actions. The bible tells us to think on things  that are TRUE (Phillipians 4:8)

Believe me, I don't always have a clean mind. I don't always have happy thoughts and birds chirping. I get bad thoughts, tempting thoughts. But you know what? I don't have to settle for them. I can do this:

"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." (Philippians 4:8)

That's my vow to guard my heart and thoughts to the Lord, AND to my husband. Everything is His (both). In this movie, a seed was planted and it grew and grew and then fully blossomed into something very ugly. Remember, just one action can change your whole life..forever. 

Sin is never worth it. And it always ends up into something totally different from what we thought initially. Mostly worse. We've heard stories in the headlines about affairs gone wrong, ending in murder. Ending in Divorce. Devastation for all families involved. It is very selfish because you are putting SELF ahead of everyone else. 

I got many things from this movie, so I'll definitely do a part 2 posting! It was powerful, relatable and def a reminder to my husband & I. These situations aren't beyond anyone. Not "good" people, not Christians, not older people; no one. One thought. One word. One choice. That's all it takes.

It's funny because after it was over, my husband was extra charming lol. I guess he was on his toes, covering all the bases ha!  So go check it out with your spouse. If you're single, it's good too-extra preparation for married life! :)

Love me,
Love God. 


  1. Good perspective. We went to see it too and it sure got us talking. Lots of chances to stop and flee but I know its easier said then done. Need our Father every day all day to keep those thoughts and lies from taking root. Thx for sharing:-) Teri