Wednesday, February 20, 2013

So you say you're a good mother???

How many times have you asked yourself,"Am I a good mother?" Or how many times have you said, "I'm not a good mother." Well, if you're anything like me, you've said it a couple of times... plus some. Lol. 

Recently, I've been thinking of some of my goals, with one of them being *Do more activities with the kids. I'm a stay at home mom of 3 and I want to take advantage our  free time (it isn't a whole lot). I want to teach my boys more things to get ready for school, but I haven't worked it into our routine just yet. I'm not a crafty person so that hasn't happened yet either. 

I've been talking to some of my mommy friends lately, and it's interesting that we ALL are trying to be better in some area.  All across the board we are comparing ourselves to one another, wishing we were like such and such. Good ol' Facebook does an excellent job of putting people on a platform. So we got Martha Stewart moms, Betty Crocker moms, Jillian Michaels moms and Incredi-Mom, who juggles it all!

 So here's the thing, "It's not always what it seems." The mom that looks put together in a snapshot isn't always put together in real life. I'll be the first to raise my hand. Sometimes (when my kids are behaved & sleeping lol) I write nice things about them on facebook and then as soon as they wake up, all heck breaks loose. Lol. Sometimes it just goes down like that! It's called life. It's inconsistent. We have good days and bad days.

Instead of comparing ourselves to online people, why don't we celebrate one another in what comes natural to them? I'll be the first to admit that I'm not a soft spoken person most of the time, despite what my pictures look like. I have some friends who naturally speak softly to their husbands and kids and it INSPIRES me. It's something I have to put more effort in and Prayer, but just being around certain people motivate me to be better in that area. I constantly have to work on my tone. (Proverbs 15:1)

There are plenty of moms who wish they did better in the kitchen. Health is a priority to me, so it's easier for me to put in the effort. I don't always succeed, because I can't. Life gets crazy sometimes and I have no choice but to serve a quick pizza! But I thank God, I am at home and I'm able to cook for my family and give them healthier alternatives. But, maybe you don't have the time;it's okay. Do what you can with what you have. I wish I was a funner mom (is that a word?) but I'm not...yet. So, instead of keeping looking down on myself, I'll just ask my fun moms for some games or suggestions or look on Pinterest ;) no biggie, I'm not the worst mom ever. We all need to stop condemning ourselves for not being like her or looking like her. There's no standard except Jesus. And He wasn't a mom, so all we can do is our best and not be ashamed to ask for help. I've decided I have to get up each morning and pray with my kids to have a good, safe fun day. And ask God for His grace because I so desperately need it. We never stop growing, and we never arrive. Especially as wife and mother, we'll always be striving towards something. And lately, I've just enjoyed watching friends enjoy their kids and share their great ideas with me. It's beautiful.

So, No you are not a bad mom for not having time to work out or cook! Our lives are all different. We all are traveling on different paths, no need to compare them because we're not racing each other. We've all been given different strengths and gifts. I believe God did this so that we can depend on one another. If we all were good in the same areas, why would we need each other? We wouldn't. So I'm not going to be ashamed that I'm not good at all things. I DO need help from friends. I would like your ideas on how to better. I don't live in a house with a white picket fence around it. I have an apartment and a daily prayer to be better to my kids and husband. I don't want your life, but maybe I do want your patience or your awesome ideas :)

So you say you're a good mother?????
I think you're right.

p.s. As I always say, I'm here to help. If there's something you need, just ask :)

                Love me,
               Love God.


  1. Well written, Jewel! I needed to read this! Thanks for always being willing to share your experiences and testimonies!

    1. I appreciate you Candace :) glad to help, love ya