True Fulfillment

Reading from the book of John this morning made me realize a very sad truth. satan truly uses men to destroy women. I know that it is also the other way around; Lust period. But, I'm going to speak on women today. If you look in John 4:15 it reads, "The woman said to him, "Sir, give me this water so that I won't get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water."

Later, we find out that she has five husbands and is with another man (not her 

husband). So many women have a NEED for companionship. They are constantly in relationships and, are dating. Many single women long for marriage and are willing to compromise their Maker's beliefs just to be in one. Marriage isn't wrong at all, desiring marriage isn't wrong either. The deception is thinking that a relationship, including marriage will form as some type of Fulfillment to you.

So let us understand that God is FULFILLMENT. Literally. He is the Maker, the Creator of all of Earth, all of Heaven. He did not created anything or anyone on this earth to take HIS place. Replacement is different from fulfillment. I can replace my children with new ones, but they wouldn't fulfill the same, exact love (attachment) my children brought me. I can replace God's love with a man's love, but will never find fulfillment in that. Temporary satisfaction maybe, excitement; happiness even. But not fulfillment. If you haven't noticed our world today is full of different drugs, new drugs in fact. Different types of alcohol. Different new, addicting foods even. Fun gadgets. ----> ALL Replacements.

I can vividly remember the many, many men I went through before I met my husband. When I say "went through" I mean talking, dating, exchanging info., flirting, kissing, and other encounters. Attention. False fulfillment. I didn't know about the spring of water Jesus was talking about in John 4:13, Jesus answered, "Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life."

I was going back to a raggedy well, seeking this "water" with an empty cup. Filling up my cup with lies, flattery, lust and walking back still...empty.  Jesus is explaining to this woman, I paraphrase, "you have all these husbands and yet you still are thirsty." I have watched many family members and many friends go through man after man only to be hurt time & time again. I have witnessed a temporary high from these relationships. False hopes and pretend joy stem from these unhealthy relationships. They are unhealthy because they are expected to bring the woman fulfillment. The men are expected to deliver joy and act as God. That might sound deep, but I know from experience that it's true.  I know about the chasing, the pursuit; the exact thing the bible speaks opposite about. Check this out. Proverbs 18:22, "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD."

It doesn't say to go to clubs or any place half naked and try to seduce your way into his heart! Because a man at a club, almost drunk looking at your body is probably NOT thinking with His heart. More like another body part. I tried to use my body, looks, pictures everything on the outside to get in on the inside of a man:His heart. It absolutely does not work like that. The bible says God looks at the heart of man, not the appearance (1 Samuel 16:7) So you want a man who is striving to BE like God and find His wife with His heart, wisdom & discernment; prayer. You do not want a man who went after you because of your looks!

satan knows how much we desire love and fulfillment. Haven't you noticed how many times you commit to walk with God and oh! what's this? You meet another man. How many times has this "new" man been special? He's better than all the rest. Or how many times has your old man come back at such a time as this. But he's new and improved! He supports your love for GOD, except when it comes to sex, because that should be shared between the two of you. You guys love each other! Hmmm. I cannot tell you how many times I have declared my undying love to GOD and a new man has came along. 

I cannot tell you how many times I have fallen for the same man when trying to be faithful to GOD. satan uses men to destroy women. he does not want you to be in love with God and walk with HIM. He rather you go in circles, down the same lonely, destructive path chasing a man and putting all your hope in him (instead of God). I am not exaggerating when I say 90% of all the testimonies I have heard from women include men(or a man). Addicted to sex, pornography, attention, relationships, abuse, etc! The whole time we cannot see Jesus. Putting our trust and hope in man will never bring long lasting results. Our ONLY hope is Christ. If our source of hope is in anything else, it will go bankrupt. 

I want to add this one last thing. I have been married for 5 years now. Can I tell you that my husband does NOT bring me fulfillment.   I knew that God was always to remain first, like for life before I got married. But, in time my actions said different. My thoughts said otherwise. Even in marriage, none goes before God. My heart will NEVER beat for another the way it beats for Christ. Ever. He is my everything. Everything He created:laughter, children, marriage, giving, jobs, exercise, food etc are good things. But they don't equal to the Joy that He brings. His presence is pure Joy. Smile :) I am lol. 

And so, don't be ignorant of satan's devices (2 Corinthians 2:11). A man, in marriage should be a blessing. God created it that way. Do not let a man be used to distract you from Christ; that's backwards! Everything God creates is GOOD. If it's unhealthy, needy, or abusive it's not GOOD, therefore  it's not of GOD. We aren't perfect, but His designs are. Just like money is not evil in itself, love isn't either. Relationships aren't either. But the bible says "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil" ( 1 Timothy 6:10) So if you're loving love, men, relationships, attention, marriage and are willing to do anything to get it, then it's time to ask God what is really your void. "Test me, O LORD, and try me, examine my heart and my mind" Psalm 26:2

Unlike the songs that promote replacing men and upgrading them, in real life it never works that way. You can replace a man all you want and still get the same results unless they are FROM GOD. God's TRUE love cannot be replaced. If you don't first have HIS love, you'll never reach true fulfillment. Guard your heart, keep your eyes open and be led in everything you do. 

Take some time to learn YOU, how God made you. Jewel in Christ is a heck of lot different from Jewel apart from Christ. I like different things, different men. I used to lust, not love men. Know the difference. Take some time to fall in love with HIM. Take some time to be fulfilled in Him alone. Matthew 6:33 says to Seek HIM first. He truly will take care of everything else.......and you will never thirst again -Jesus.

p.s. God says you're worth it. You're worthy of True Love. God is Love. 
p.s. my sweet revelation of my faithful God and His rescue from men. http://aperfectfitministries.blogspot.com/2012/12/i-used-to-love-him.html

Love me,

Love GOD.

~a song for the virtuous women, from Ni Mills:

http://nimills.bandcamp.com/track/good-bye-ft-aaron-flewellen